Jason Robert Ballard: When I was in middle school, I had a crush on a girl on my school bus. I hung out with her a lot and we were really close. During her birthday party she had a guy she liked and she was chasing him around and giving him a lot of attention and I got upset. The next day and the next couple of weeks were hell for me because her and her friends spread it around that was a Lesbian. If you remember, being different in general in middle school is hard, forget being LGBT.
I knew that I liked girls after that point but I knew that wasn’t all of it.
I had made accounts on some chat rooms and I’d been presenting myself as a boy. Dating girls under false pretenses for awhile to explore who I was and what my gender identity was. My mother found out one day and was actually really supportive. She found some resources for me online and printed out a bunch of information on being transgender and we talked about it. She helped me come out to my family, including my father who told her it was just a phase. He soon after stopped talking to me and didn’t share my identity with my younger step brothers. They didn’t know until 7 years later when I friended them on facebook.
There has been positives and negative with all of my family, and friends but mostly positive.
Leo: My mom hacked into my Facebook account and read my coming out letter to a friend so she grounded me and didn’t let me have my laptop, iPod, or cell phone and called me a freak of nature then she called the high school and told them if the counselor talked to me my parents would bring a lawsuit to the school.
Lance: Mine is kind of a trilogy..
The first time I came out, I said “hey mom-” and she interrupted me with, “I know.”
The second time I came out, my parents said they would support me but it would take some time. Nothing changed.
A year after this, I came out a third time, telling my parents that I wasn’t coming back for Thanksgiving if they didn’t want to make an effort to respect what I had told them about myself. My mother responded with a grand story about how excited she was to have a baby when she was pregnant with me, told me the whole story of my naming and my birth, and placed a lot of blame on me and basically said that it’s up to me if I want to come home, but they don’t think that they’re doing anything wrong.
Cain: I told my best friends first. They were supportive and happy and had been waiting ages for me to accept myself. I came out to my family a few weeks later, after having stress dreams, anxiety, and guilt over hiding it. They asked a lot of questions, but seemed to take it well. Now they just pretend it never happened and never talk about my transition. I think they’re just happy I’m not so angry and depressed all the time.
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Marc: Born a girl.. Ain’t no more!
Xand Trans nomadic lover momma’s boy fighter
Collin: He created the life he wanted.
Mooby: I am a Self Made Man
Len: Who am I? Do I know?
Zee I’m a guy who likes socks.
Alexander: Mr life - broken before it started.
Em: Whatever it takes to find me.
Sam: I am journeying to love myself!
Westley: Late bloomer, T, top, finally me
Blake: Me then… Me Now… Pride… Equality
Tyler: Came out, met my wonderful man
Aaron: 40 equals me, finally me. Aaron.
Kyle: A work in progress, assembly needed.
Shane: Sober transman. Grateful, peaceful, mindful
Max: Was a miss-assembled boy; not anymore
Noah: born, grew up, now I’m me
Niko: Born, I have always been myself!
Rawfeyl: Born female, Always artist, Now transman
Junior: Wooden Boy Loses Strings in ‘10
Natalie: Out, proud, transmasculine college student